It seems so recent that my youngest brother, Roddy left us yet it is already over 2 years that he was not around anymore.
Today, 19th day of the 12 month of the lunar calendar is his 'birthday' that is if he is still in this world. But, in the netherworld, this day is known as 'Bian Kee'. A day where the family holds a praying session with all the goodies deem fit for birthday celebrations without the person concerned. This is the third time and the last we have this kind of prayers to mark his 'birthday'.
No one would like to celebrate this kind of 'birthday' which means the person is no longer around in this world. The feeling and mood are not the same. We cannot see if he is enjoying, happy or not and can only ask if he is alright in that world with the throwing of 2 coins. A head and tail would signify 'okay', both heads or tails would mean otherwise.