Roddy Ong Lay Keong's Wake Service and Funeral Photos [1967-2013]

Roddy Ong Lay Keong

Born 29 January 1967

Died 25 December 2013 at 6.20am

Age 46 years

Left Behind Beloved Wife and 2 young daughters, mother, siblings, nieces and nephews and lots of relatives and friends.

Caused of Death - Head Injury in a Minor Motorcycle Accident 

Family, Relatives and Friends At the Funeral

 Wreaths and Condolence Messages

Loss of My Youngest Brother, Roddy [25-12-2013]

Christmas Day will never be a joyful day to us in future as it will bring back sad memories of this day when the family lost a beloved relative who was related to us as a husband, father, son, brother, uncle and cousins, etc.  This dear brother, Roddy left us so suddenly in a road mishap on Christmas morning at 6.20am without having a chance to bid 'Goodbye'.  Just a minor road mishap without involving others and without anyone knowing exactly what had happened, yet it can caused a loss of a previous life and bringing so much pain to the family.  We had never expect such an incident will happen to him - a happy and jovial person who still have much to do for all.   It's really unacceptable to all especially his wife and children and my aged mother.  

 

A post mortem was conducted for his head injury confirming the cause of his death but a later discussion with a cardiologist brought up a possibility that he could have suffered a heart attack that resulted in his lost of control on his motorcycle and fall.  However, the post-mortem did not include a check of his heart.

He had a grand funeral and burial with a huge turnout of friends and relatives, that proved that he was very much loved and lived by all who knew him. Whatever it is, his sudden passing is a great loss to all of us and it is devastating to the family.   My dear brother, we all miss you so much.

Take a look at his photos, nobody would expect he had left this world at the age of 46.  

 

 

 

 

 

Bian Kee 2013 [Birthday] Prayers

Bian Kee, celebrating the birthday of a person after death. According to tradition, it is considered a must have ritual to remember this day for 3 consecutive years after one's passing. Today is my Papa's 3rd Bian Kee since his passing on 24 October 2011.  We have been 'celebrating' this ocassion with offering of various foods and prayers on 18th day of eleventh lunar month [that was his birthday].

On this day's prayers certain food is a must have to be offered:

1.  The steamed buns must be in blue colour for a male and yellow for a female.

2.  Birthday noodles or mee sua

3.  Red eggs

4.  A cake

5.  No candles or joss papers to be burnt

6.  Any choice of the various food that are served on birthdays [not those offered during death anniversaries]

This would be the last time we have to 'celebrate' and offer prayers on this day as it is already a third one after his passing.  Of course, different families celebrate this day according to their own preference but basically it is in such a manner.   It's like celebrating one's birthday without the presence of the person. Some don't even bother to do this as they believe, there is nothing left after one's passing.  But to us, we are taking it as an occassion or opportunity to remember our loved one who has passed on and for the living [family members] to gather.

Usually on such occasions,  we will ask if he is happy with all the offerings but on this day, I tried many times throwing the coins and never did get a head and tail side of the coins that signifies that he is pleased.  I sensed sometime could be wrong but just didn't know what could be wrong.  Never did we expect that perhaps he knows that we will lose a relative soon that was his youngest son, my youngest brother, Roddy just 5 days after this Bian Kee.  I think he must be very sad too, yet couldn't help it.

My Pa's 2nd Anniversary [ 己 日]

Time flies, today corresponds to the 28th day of the 9th lunar calendar month.  Two years have passed, I can still remember this day when I just came back from Taiwan.  I was in time to see my Pa for the very last time, not knowing that it was the last I got to see him.  Didn't expect that he will leave me so soon, only 2 hours after seeing him.  I have to believe that he had waited for me to be back from my 2 weeks holidays.

Today, the family made offerings to him in the family home with assortment of food and joss papers.  Believe it or not, I did receive a 'windfall' courtesy from my Pa on the eve of this anniversary.  Thanks to my dear Papa.

Pa we love you and will miss you always and forever.  Hope you rest in peace.